Say Yes To Change

It’s not just menopause

The greatest reward to writing this blog is the opportunity to write about things that are significant, and reach a greater audience. As women we share a common thread; it is my hope that revealing what guides and influences me will resonate, and act as a reminder that no matter what is going on for you it’s not the end of the world, although at times it may feel that way!

“All emotions are pure which gather you and lift you up; that emotion is impure which seizes only one side of your being and so distorts you. -Rainer Marie Rilke”

Each individual woman is wired into her own unique outline of thoughts, beliefs and genetic coding. Accepting this about myself gave me a renewed sense of inner freedom and peace. It is the place from which I live, and it’s where I go when I need to make decisions that influence my life, health and future in any way. It is really just thinking things through before making a decision.

Change is constant; is does not begin or end with menopause.  We cannot change what is going on around us, but we can change what is going on for us and inside of us. The world is in crisis but that does not mean that we have to be. Every day of my life I’m creating my own future by maintaining a constant practice of caring for my body and mending my mind.  I’m not perfect (ask my family) but maintaining my health, well-being, physical, mental, emotional, and spirituality is how I love myself as I love my family and dear friends.

powerful-womenMenopause is here to stay. You must consider what you need to do to help your body adjust to physical and emotional changes. The more we resist, the more we lose our ability to be resilient. Think of symptoms between PMS and menopause as a continuous biological feedback loop that is constantly sending status reports on how you are doing. If your body is shouting out for attention during monthly menstrual cycles and menopause, it’s doing it for a reason.  Eating real food, getting plenty of exercise, and developing healthy lifestyle habits will make a significant difference. An herbal supplement is even worth a try, I have been taking them for years.

I understand that not everyone will use all natural methods of relief, but please be fully aware of the dangers in all forms of hormone replacement therapy before you start. Research and ask questions that apply specifically to you.  If you are on hormones, please do not stop educating yourself on the lifetime risks involved. You can find peer reviewed information and articles on my Facebook page.

All emotions are pure which gather you and lift you up; that emotion is impure which seizes only one side of your being and so distorts you.

-Rainer Marie Rilke

Stay well, take care.



The Estrogen Dilemma


You will quickly realize my goal is to help other women find peace with their hormones without the use of HRT.  Don’t get me wrong, no women needs to suffer through hot flashes or any annoying symptoms of perimenopause or menopause but, we don’t need to play roulette with our health either.

Even though my perimenopause was a like a trip to hell and back, it turned out to be a blessing in disguise. I’m now 63; between then and now came experience, mounds of research and many conversations with menopausal women about their challenges.

Direct experience and closeness with others during their transition has brought me here and now. I hope what I share will also enrich your life, health and help you find peace with your hormones.

Medical treatments have their proper place, however, not in perimenopause or menopause care.  I am not alone in my opinion or findings. It has been known since the 60’s, Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) increases for breast cancer, heart disease, blood clots and stroke. Its simple biology; pharmaceutical or steroid estrogen stimulates the growth of estrogen sensitive tissue in the breast and uterus. It is a risk that is easy enough to avoid.

Barbara Seaman, a women’s health advocate since the 70’s has written extensively about the use of menopausal hormones. I recommend reading or even just flipping through her book, The Greatest Experiment Ever Preformed on Women (copyright 2002). It’s, educational, eye opening and guaranteed to change your mind if you are considering taking HRT in any form.

I believe that most of us understand the new health care is self-care. The highest level of health care emphasizes positive health through lifestyle and nutrition. Eating real food and choosing herbs that are tonic and adaptogenic, will help restore, tone, balance, invigorate and reduce the response to stress. Working with the core of our individual constitution and helping the body regulate its own hormones, the way nature intended.

Trust you intuition, stay true to yourself.

Stay well, take care.


The Boy Scout Motto

Be Prepared.

The Holidays are here again and honestly, this year was like a blur. It was busy, very full with exciting, nail-biting, educational, eye opening stuff. I laughed and shed some tears, but all in all I must say a blessed year. That’s life and something I’ve learned, no matter what life throws at me, it goes on.

Do you ever stop and wonder how being busy has become the norm?  Feel a bit guilty if not involved in a project? Modern technology has us wired into being continuously productive and we have become slaves to cell phones, computers, tablets, texting, email, junk mail and walking around with headphones in our ears in our ears; heaven forbid we miss something.

I have to admit I love the holidays, I come from a big Italian family and our traditions, inherent family values, and love for each other keep bringing us together. The annual marathon also keeps getting more challenging; Making time to write cards, decorate, shop, bake, see family and friends, cook and get the house ready for guests. All setting the stage to bring everyone together for this day that happens but once a year. And when we think we have it all taken care of, we second guess ourselves and feel like we’re forgetting something or someone!

This is also the time of year that I hear from exhausted women, not necessarily complaining, but just trying to make it through a season meant to be filled with joy and fun – by the way that goes for everyone!

Our female hormones never forget us, keeping in touch with us, giving us status reports on how we are doing, every day. If you’re already  dealing with symptoms of menopause, this time of year can easily have you feeling hormonally turned inside out and upside down. Increased stress, changes in diet, over eating, eating things that you normally don’t eat, lack of sleep, change in routine and too much Champagne! No wonder so many feel overwhelmed by the pressure of the holidays; physically, emotionally, energy levels near depletion, hot flashes and impatience penetrating your otherwise cheerful self. Listen to the voice in your heart and head that says the holidays are a gift in themselves to be enjoyed, not a chore and a race to the finish line.

Endurance Strategies

Give up perfectionism

Ask for help

Powers whine

Keep repeating: Joy is not in things, it is within us.

Make a list of all the things you will and won’t do next year

Take care of yourself; it’s not selfish, it’s the most important thing to the people who love you.

Stay well and enjoy the holidays!



My Favorite Things

Ho! Ho! Ho!

This year, I wanted to share with you some of my gifts ideas. If you have run out of creative ideas check these out…

The Flavor Bible by Karen Page and Andrew Dornenburg

Winner of the 2009 James Beard Book Award for Best Book

This is not a cookbook- it’s learning how to season ingredients to coax the greatest possible flavor from them. This is a guide to creating deliciousness in any dish. Readers learn to work more intuitively and effectively with ingredients to excite the nose and palate with herbs, spices, and other seasonings; and balance the sensual, emotional, and spiritual elements of an extraordinary meal. I only have two books in my kitchen and this one is by far my favorite. Buy The Flavor Bible

The Mists of Avalon by Marion Zimmer Bradley.

This book was first published in 1982, truly a classic and one of my favorite books, a magical saga of the women behind King Arthur’s throne from the perspective of the women. A great read for anyone, man, woman or teenager who likes to read! Buy The Mists of Avalon

Erin McKenna’s Bakery

Know someone whose gluten free? DO you want to get them something special and yummy? Erin has Gluten Free down to a science, I know because I’ve been gluten free for so long that I’ve forgotten what real pizza taste like! Her shops are in NY, LA and Orlando and ship throughout the US.

Everything she makes is refined, sugar-free, gluten-free, wheat-free, soy-free, dairy-free, egg-free, vegan and kosher.

Willow Curve

If someone you love suffers from chronic joint pain and inflammation, the Willow Curve is an innovative, portable digital pain-relieving device designed to help temporarily reduce minor joint pain. The Willow Curve has been used successfully to treat a number of conditions in thousands of hospitals and clinics nationwide, as well by the Navy SEALS and in professional sports training facilities.

Kee’s Chocolates

Sometimes I torture my NY heart and soul and think about all the endless scrumptious things NY has to offer tucked away in its streets! I didn’t think about that when I decided to move to FL!

If you happen to be in NY and have never been to Kee’s Chocolates, it is a mist! Their truffles, chocolates, and macaroons are to die for! What can I say that hasn’t been said already in Gourmet, New York Times and Zagat’s to mention a few.  Kee’s is one of New York City’s BEST chocolatier’s.  They do ship, weather dependent. Buy Kee’s Chocolates


Zona Plus

Anyone can suffer from high blood pressure at any age. Medication is not always the answer, and they come with side effects that may be unpleasant such as water retention and insomnia.  The Zona Plus is a computer-controlled device designed to improve cardiovascular health which fits easily into the palm of your hand. It is easy to use and safe, with no known negative side effects. Young or old, early stage or severe hypertension, medicated or not, nearly everyone could use and benefit from Zona Plus. (Please note, always consult your doctor before making changes to you blood pressure treatment.)


You’re baking, cooking, shopping, wrapping presents, sending cards, decorating and going all out for all those you love. Don’t let the symptoms of menopause take away the joy of the season. This is the gift you buy for yourself and the women in your life you cherish. No one needs to suffer through the holidays!


Dr. Alkaitis Skin Care

Love your skin, celebrate your beauty. “If you can’t eat it don’t put it on your skin”. Dr. Alkaitis uses this absolute guideline in formulating his products. These products are a meticulously formulated and highly effective skin food. I have to say I love everything from this line. My daily favorites are the cleanser, toner and face oil. A LITTLE really does go a long way. Buy Dr. Alkaitis Skin Care


Create a beautiful day! Stay well, take care.


The Moment of Truth

When the unexpected happens…

It was a moment of truth that liberated me from my own resistance. It opened my heart, a door to knowledge, awareness and truth; it taught me to listen deeply, both to myself and others. This is when compassion became the foundation of my career, and the countless women I’ve spoken to over the years are a good reason for me to recommend,  judge not the change.  Offer further insight and wisdom as a means to rectify what has become, honestly, a situation that is causing more stress than any woman needs to deal with.

What was my resistance? I was at war with my hormones and because of the way I was going about it, they were winning. That was 25 years ago.

Like many women going through perimenopause without a clue, and a life of stress, mine was a divorce, the loss of my brother, a move across the country ─ I felt like a train wreck. The medically recommended birth control pills and antidepressants turned me into a burned out shell. I was afraid of what I didn’t know, but today I am completely and eternally grateful I listened to the voice in my gut that pushed me in the complete opposite direction for help. Life gives trials and also offers salvation! The drugs were short lived and replaced with a lifestyle and mindfulness that works for this high octane woman and it’s the way I live my life and maintain my health to this day.

It’s a Normal Life Cycle and Time to Move Beyond What We Have Been Taught

It’s wonderful and perfect to see perimenopausal and menopausal women changing their perceptions of aging and what “old” means in this era of longer lifespans, what they want and, what is really important  ─ women, especially who are 40+ are tiring of the obsession with endless youth. They are more interested in aging well—feeling good, remaining active, and maintaining their health, fitness, finances, and independence. Collectively we are also learning all forms of prescription Hormone Replacement Therapies are unnecessary and cure nothing ─ and come with many health risks and side effects that don’t fit into our desired way of life.

Our perception is consciousness and about truth and trust; being true to ourselves, trusting our own decisions, knowledge, taking an active approach in our health and well being, we gain a better understanding of our female body. Acknowledging that menopause is not a defect, but a time frame meant to happen for a reason. Menopause is not a disease that needs to be treated. We are learning more every day that menopause does not cause disease, but that life style does.

Life is about minding the body and mending the mind with strategies for transforming life at any age.

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Stay well, take care and stay tuned.