The other day I received a call from a young woman I met not too long ago, and we became friendly. We were chatting, and catching up on the small stuff when she asked apprehensively: “Sometimes my orgasms are very powerful and sometimes they’re just okay. Why does that happen?”
I wanted to hug her! I applaud women brave enough to ask embarrassing questions. It obviously was something that troubled her and her boyfriend. It doesn’t matter if you’re 20 or 90; we all have something about sex or our bodies that we don’t quite get. What she’s experiencing is an absolute realistic experience for any women at any age ─ and a reasonable question to ask.
Orgasms are not like Kentucky Fried Chicken where you are guaranteed the same product every time.
Some orgasms may feel nothing more than a pleasant flutter while others are of the peel off the ceiling variety.
Medical explanations of sexuality suffer from a severe case of terminology overload. The basic overview is our physiology and psychological status at the moment can either perk up or muffle an orgasm or mute it out completely.
Mental attitude, mood, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, the ebb and flow of hormones, where you are in your monthly cycle (if you still have one) foreplay, how many organisms have you already had, the depth of penetration, position, what you ate beforehand, alcohol, medications, vaginal dryness, painful intercourse or simply being too tired ─ these and more all play a role in outcome.
Relax, enjoy the moment and dwell on the beauty of life. If everything was always perfect we would literally astound ourselves!